I am 70 years old, and divorced my husband after 47 years of mental, emotional and spiritual abuse. I am not a weak, mousy person, yet he had convinced me that I am incompetent in nearly every area..nothing I did or my children did was good enough. When he started in on the grands I balked and said NO MORE! He died 2 years after the divorce, so I consider myself a divorced widow. I am currently writing a book designed to help women..and men..escape from abusive relationships. Sometimes you cant see the forest for the trees..and it takes a serious situation to jar you loose.
(Who says baggage can't be tantalizing? Load up all 50 years of it and let's go on a cruise!)